So, my recent blogpost “You are not alone” created quite a stir – though not openly, of course not. 😏
Especially the part where I mentioned that some might perceive me as a failure, and were a bit shocked by my response: „I couldn’t care less“
Dear reader, let me be clear. In my line of work, I have had the privilege of connecting with countless women who have endured emotional and physical abuse. And yes, I have walked in their shoes too.
The women I encounter are remarkable in many ways:
They are strong, resilient, loving, dedicated, resourceful, hardworking, and extremely successful.
But here’s the thing—they are also acutely aware that what they endured at home was WRONG.
But you know what else they are?
They are women with boundless patience, mothers who recognize the importance of a father figure in their children’s lives.
They are women who prioritize the needs of others because that’s what they’ve learned. They possess empathy for their abusers because, believe it or not, it’s not always black and white. Many of these abusers are fathers, individuals with their own stories and often have a side that is loving and caring. They carry the weight of their own sorrowful pasts, usually rooted in their own childhood experiences.
The women I engage with are warriors.
They have exhausted every possible avenue to keep their families intact, enduring unimaginable hardships in the process. They have braved hell and back in an attempt to “fix” things. They have shouldered the burden of abuse to shield their children from a shattered home, for as long as they possibly could.
My journey, their journey, is not about seeking empathy or embracing victimhood. It’s about falling down and summoning the strength to rise again. It’s about resilience, about standing up for oneself and proclaiming, “Enough is enough!”
Failure is only if you choose to remain on your knees. But that’s not who I am, and that’s not who the women I work with are.
This is about empowerment—embracing our past, fostering forgiveness, learning, and growing. Every single one of us is a success story, not a failure.
So, yes, if people regard me or the women I work with as “failures,” I simply smile and think: “Get the popcorn ready, sit back, and watch.” 🍿
Thanks for taking the time to read ❤️
And for all the love and support I get ❤️
And if you or someone you know is tired of playing the victim and ready to reclaim the throne they were born to occupy, spread the word. The women I work with and I are here, ready to help you find clarity and strength in our support group for working mothers navigating separation and divorce.
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